how to tell if a woman is flirting with you

How To Tell If A Woman Is Flirting With You: 12 Ways

It’s no secret that women are a mystery, and most men find them very difficult to understand. If you’re interested in a particular woman and you’re wondering if she feels the same way about you, there are easy ways to tell.

In fact, if you’re paying attention, you can learn a lot about a woman’s body language and what she says to you to figure out if she’s flirting or just being friendly.

Even if you’re not interested in a woman, it’s still nice to be able to tell if she’s flirting with you because let’s face it, everyone likes to be flirted with now and then!

Flirting or Friendly?

Most women are friendly people by nature, so it is sometimes difficult to determine whether they’re flirting with you or just being polite. Many times, you have to pay very close attention if you want to find out if a woman is flirting with you, but once you learn the different signs women give when they’re flirting, it becomes much easier to tell the difference between that and just being nice.

Below are some of the things a woman might do if she’s actively flirting with you.

1. She Won’t Talk About Other Men

If a woman never talks about other men when she’s around you, this could be a sign that she’s flirting with you. Women who flirt won’t want you to know about her previous relationships, and she may even be leery about talking about male friends around you as well.

As a general rule, if a woman is flirting with you, she is not going to talk about other men in front of you.

2. She Gets More Physical Around You

A flirting woman will find ways to be more physical with you. No, we don’t mean trying to punch you in the arm, but she may look for reasons to pat you on the back, put her hand on your arm or shoulder, or if you’re sitting down next to one another, she may even touch your leg.

Although some women are more “touchy feely” than others, most of them won’t do these things unless they are flirting with you.

3. Their Quirks Start to Come Through

When you notice a woman twirling her hair, batting her eyelashes, touching her chin, or performing any similar action, she is very likely flirting with you.

In fact, touching any part of her face whenever she’s around you is a sure sign that she’s totally into you. These are definitely flirty behaviors that women just don’t do when someone she considers just a friend is around.

4. She’s Always Trying to Get Close to You

Women who look for opportunities to get close to you physically could very well be flirting with you, especially if she seems to do it every time you’re around her. An example would be when you’re in a room together and she starts subtly moving toward you until she is suddenly very close to you. She may just start talking to you as if it’s just a coincidence, but instead just know that she has planned this out ahead of time.


5. She Acts Nervous Around You

This one is a little easier to spot than many of the others, but if a woman acts fidgety and nervous when she’s around you, she’s likely very interested in you. This is especially true if she blushes or stutters when she’s trying to talk to you, and even though it is not flirting in the true sense of the word, it is definitely a sure sign that she wants you to notice her.

6. Her Tone Gets Either Higher or Faster

If you want to know how to tell if a woman is flirting with you, another way is to listen to her voice as she’s talking to you. Women’s voices change when they’re flirting with someone, which usually means their voice becomes higher or they’re talking a little faster. This usually isn’t done intentionally but is a subconscious action. Still, if her voice gets higher or she starts talking faster, she’s very likely flirting with you.

7. Her Eye Contact Becomes More Consistent

People of both genders make eye contact for longer periods of time and more intensely when they’re flirting with another person. Only women who want you to notice them will do this. Let’s face it, if she’s not flirting with you, she’s not going to be interested in making – and keeping – eye contact with you. Only a woman who is in a flirtatious mood is going to do that.

8. Her Smile Is Huge

If she smiles at you and her smile is so big that her cheeks are lifted and you see crow’s feet around her eyes, it is very likely she is flirting with you. If you’re just a friend, she’ll give you a standard “friend” smile, but she’ll always save those extra-big smiles for people she is flirting with. The more she smiles and the bigger the smile is, the more likely she is flirting with you.


9. She Teases You Regularly

If a woman is constantly teasing you, especially if she touches you on the arm or shoulder as she does so, she is likely flirting with you. Remember the old saying, “they wouldn’t tease you if they didn’t like you”? This isn’t just true for kids on the playground; it applies to adults as well. If a woman teases you regularly and you can tell she isn’t doing it to be mean, she is probably flirting with you.

10. She Texts You Regularly

If a woman texts you regularly and it isn’t about work-related things or something practical, she could very well be flirting with you. This includes not just regular texts but also funny messages, silly pictures, or random funny questions. These days, texting is huge for women who are trying to flirt, and the less serious the messages are, the more likely she is flirting with you after all.

11. She Uses Flirtatious Emojis

If you want to know if a woman is flirting with you, pay close attention to any emojis she sends you. Popular ones include winks, smiley faces, anything with hearts on it, and blushing faces. The chances are excellent that she is indeed flirting with you if she uses any of these emojis or any other emoji that seems to be overly friendly, or if she sends you these emojis frequently.

12. She Plays the Damsel in Distress

Women who flirt often find ways to play the “damsel in distress” role. This can include asking you to open a jar for her or asking if you’d take a look underneath the hood of her car because she heard a “funny noise” in it earlier. A woman can come up with tons of ways to pretend like she needs help from someone more masculine than her, and it’s a good sign that she’s flirting with you.


Determining if a woman is flirting with you or just being friendly can be tricky, especially since most of the time, the behaviors they’re executing are very subtle.

Nevertheless, if you pay close attention and notice what she’s doing and how many times she does it, you can more easily determine if she’s indeed flirting with you.

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